Know More about Dealing with Defiant Children

Children at a young age or in their adolescence for sure turn defiant for their parents. The behaviour of children sees a sure upgrade from every previous stage to a new one. This may be dealt with but it has to be done in a proper manner so as to keep it healthy for the growth and development of the personality of the child.

Defiant children usually develop this problem due to their non-compliance of behaviour with what is required by their parents or teachers. Defiance may stem from any kind of frustration and anger in the children due to

demands not met or anything similar. Aggressive behaviour is also a part of the defiant behaviour of children and this can have certain aftermaths since the behaviour can get aggressive as well if not controlled at the right time. However, it is very important that the right tactics are used by parents to deal with such behaviour of children. Some tips that can be used to deal with defiant children effectively are:

• Since the bad behaviour of the children is scolded for, good behaviour too should be acknowledged. However,
the appreciation for good behaviour should be five times more than the scolding that a kid receives on bad behaviour.

• If a negative reinforcement has to be given to the children, the parents have to make sure that it is done within ten seconds of his/her objectionable actions.

• A calm attitude of the parents is very important in setting an example for the children. Usually angry parents have angry children. To avoid this, the best way is to be patient with children.

• Parents should make it very clear to the children as to what they expect from them. Clear instructions should be meted out with exact words as to how the children should behave whether out of the house or with guests.

• Giving some power to children is very important since they should know how to take decisions for themselves. Rather than fretting over the parents’ decisions, they should be given to take and then ponder over their decision to develop better understanding.

• Parents should not make false promises to their children so as to cool their children down from their defiant attitude and aggressive behaviour.

• Keeping a good communication with children is very important since they can vent out their feelings if they find a good place of reception.

The right way to deal with your defiant child in case he behaves in a very defiant manner should be used. This will make the children learn better how he can behave himself and have a better approach for behaving in an acceptable manner.

Summary

Defiant children have to be dealt with care so that their problem of anger and frustration can be solved healthily. Some good ways to tackle such a situation include being patient, punishing them immediately after their wrong act, not making false promises, etc.

Develop positive child discipline easily now

Getting attracted to bad habits and behaviour is far easier for children than it is to adopt good and positive behaviour. Kids tend to overlook the positive aspects of their surroundings and bad behaviour seems to take the lead and come on the forefront. It is important to stem this at the right age so as to prevent it from becoming permanent behavioural problems. The right approach is very important in dealing with such behaviour and converting it back to positive and good behaviour. Some approaches that the parents can use for their kids are given below:

Shower love and care from infancy

It is very important that a child realises the importance of love and care that he gets. He needs to be assured that there is someone who he can bank upon if he is in some problem. Good love and care provided to the child in early years make him realise the importance of attachment in his life and this will lead to fewer bad behaviour problems as his/her growth progresses. Child discipline habits will be inculcated in him/her in the foundation years.

Practice respect rather than control

Parents usually take the wrong step by trying to have control over their children. This might leave a very negative impact on them and ultimately they stop respecting their parents. This gives rise to bad behaviour. The best way out of this problem is to show respect to children rather than control and this will always be a mutual relationship. Let the children take their own independent decisions, though only in some cases and let them respect your understanding. A beautiful and well-behaved relationship will surely blossom this way.

Upgrade your expectations according to the age of the child

Parents have great expectations from their children and get disappointed to a great extent when they see their expectations unfulfilled and bad child discipline. Here the parents need to take a step back and analyse what the problem actually is. Also, they have to compare their child to the behaviour of a normal child of his/her age and not go by their own expectations. Then try to work according to the problem and find the solution with patience.

Communicate well to get the best behaviour

Children who get a good communication support often are the best behaved children. Child discipline can not always be inculcated by force but also by an open communication. All problems that children face can be put forward by them and looked after by parents. Therefore, there is no problem left which can cause bad behaviour of children.

To get the best and positive child discipline, the best way is to be patient with the children and give them space to realise their own behaviour. An insight into oneself is the best lesson they can have which will help them improve their behaviour in the future.

Summary

To get the best outcome of child discipline measures, patience is a virtue which parents can use. Open communication, giving respect to children, keeping them attached, etc are some ways to keep the behaviour of children in control.

Problems of obese kids: causes, effects and treatment

There has been seen a steady and dangerous rise in the cases of obesity becoming a common occurrence in children, mostly infants and younger kids. As the age increases, the percentage of occurrence of obesity increases all the more, as the children grow. A lot of health problems are caused by the obesity factor in children. Obese kids need immediate attention of parents and teachers so that they can be relieved of this problem.

Obesity causes a lot of health problems even in kids because it is these kids who when grow up are in the grip of this dangerous problem of obesity. Paediatric hypertension, diabetes mellitus, heart diseases etc are the effects that diabetes can cause during the growth of kids. Many psychological problems due to low self esteem can also be caused in obese kids.

Causes of obesity in kids

• Heredity factor is an important one which influences the health of the kids. The children who have obese parents are at a very high risk of being obese. The genetic make up of the parents may be such that not much energy is spent and they become obese. The kids too have chances of having similar make up of genes.

• Least physical activity can also be cited as another cause for problem of obesity. The balance between consumption of energy and its expenditure is totally unmatched with each other. This extra consumption of food is stored as fats and gives rise to obese kids.

• It might not always be a heredity problem of parents too. In such cases, it may be due to lack of exercise. Watching television and no physical activity of parents develops a similar lifestyle for the kids making him obese.

Treatment of obesity in kids

• Physical activity is very important in the process of weight loss. Burning calories is very important so as to make use of the extra flab present in the body. However, only exercise is not a viable solution for the obese kids. There also has to be an intervention in the health habits and the nutrition of the kid and these both can work hand in hand to get a good result.
• Diet management is very important as a treatment for obese kids. The calorie intake is not just required to be cut down all of a sudden but only the advisable amounts of food should be taken in.
• Behaviour modification and change in habits is also a very important way to induce weight loss in obese kids. Improving eating habits, sleeping habits and exercise regimes can help in weight loss.
• Positive reinforcement for the obese kids can be very helpful since it helps them gain a positive outlook.

It is always suggested that the prevention of obesity is way better than curing it. Realise the importance of a healthy body initially and always stay with a healthy mind which is sharp and active and the owner of a healthy body.

Time To Think And Act Upon

Dr. (Ms.) Kiran Prabhakar

We are the world
Then why is our behaviors so absurd
Why are we bent upon piling problem over problem
The problems whose solution are difficult to find for ourselves and the entire mankind
Why are we denuding the jungles?
Why are we cutting the trees?
Why are we polluting the waters?
Why are we polluting the air
Does anyone, any of us care?.

Violence dominates our nature
Our thoughts, our deeds, our actions are being driven by this evil
We can’t anymore be called cultured and civil
We have lost our patience & cool,
Are we thinking, are we aware?

Affection, Truth, Honesty these Values are no more much in practice
Afflicted by hatred narrow-mindedness & selfish motive
the world seems to be filled with this malice
Are we doing something about it
Do we have no time to stand & stare?

We all must stop and think
Think how we can revive the beauty & charm of our planet
How we can make change the situation
change it for better.
How can we make this world a better place to live in
How we can spread happiness outside & deep with in
Lets be the change that we propose
Everyone contributing, whole heartedly, to every cause
Actions speak louder than the words
Let everyone be instrumental is being Heard

DPS-PINJORE School Song

 

“Service before self”

 

This motto is our guide

 

It gives us direction and

 

Stays by our side.

 

We work hard and give

 

Our best everyday.

 

We overcome all hurdles

 

That come our way

 

 

 

Chorus : With the confidence to excel

 

We shall be number one

 

We all are from DPS

 

We are second to none.

 

DPS(3) DPS(3) DPS(3) Pinjore

 

 

 

Good cultural values

 

And global outlook we hold

 

We are smart and confident

 

And very very bold

 

We spread happiness

 

to excel